Rebirth

Hello, this post is being written to venerate the concept of daily personal rebirth.

Every individual on this planet has this ability, yet most of us have never even grasped the concept of changing aspects of our lives.

Every single day, we continuously go through cycles of successes and failures, which ultimately lead to the creation of our identity and purpose. If people didn’t let their experiences change the way they live their lives, nothing would ever be better. But as humanity evolved as a whole, we realized that change is not necessarily a negative thing. On the contrary, we realized that change is necessary, and that happiness and stability lie in accepting and adapting to change.

But even though it seems ironic, I have come to the realization that this is life’s way of saying : “Stop worrying and everything will be okay”.

Hence, we shouldn’t fret about not being able to do everything we wanted to do today, because life always offers you another chance, and it’s called Tomorrow.

What is important is to never lose hope, and always adapt to whatever situation we are in.

Faith, a source of happiness

It’s been a while since I’ve written anything on this blog, and it feels bad to have stopped the streak , even if I’m not really famous 😂

The reason why I want to start blogging again is because writing was a source of stability in my life.

I’ve never really believed in horoscopes but recently I read something which I think indirectly inspired me :

“Libras are individuals who thrive in the presence of stability and security in their lives.”

Before reading that I had never thought about my life this way, I always thought that my main source of happiness as a person was being as productive as possible. But after some time, this way of living was becoming somewhat overwhelming, as my priorities were getting distorted and I didn’t know which ones to value more than others.

Stability does not equal repetitiveness.

In fact, they are quite different in many aspects, especially when it comes to well-being and happiness.

As an example, a week of repetitive (but productive) work goes a little like this:

-Day 1,2,3,4,5: Wake up early, workout, eat healthy, work, sleep early.                     -Day 6,7 : “Let go and have fun”, ultimately leading to potentially unhealthy behavior and excessive pleasure seeking.

-Day 8,9,10,11,12: Do same stuff while starting to feel bored and sad because of the difference of activities.                          -Day 13,14: More excessive behavior to compensate the boredom and repetitiveness now linked to the rest of the week.

This cycle is not all that bad, as you’re still being productive, but it can be much better.

Stability is when you don’t get bored of your work, when you do everything you think is good for your development as a person while staying in great shape, physically and mentally.

Stability is knowing that you can do whatever you want, while also knowing that you are doing everything you should.

Bonus points if you think that what you want to do is what you should do…

In the end, it’s all about you. Your life is yours and yours only.

I’ll continue writing about this subject later. Wishing you a great week.

Curiosity

Hello, sorry for not posting earlier.

These past three weeks, which constituted my break after the semester, were very enlightening to say the least.

There are many things that I have learned, and many more which I forgot due to the amount of alcohol and other substances that were in my body !

One of the things I learned is that one day, we will all look back at our lives and wonder about the various experiences we haven’t had and the many things we couldn’t do because of our shallowness/fearfulness.

What I’m saying could be misunderstood pretty easily, which is why I will try my best to describe it reasonably.

The source of happiness is not money, or fame, or a lack of failures, but curiosity.

What I mean by this is that we as human beings are naturally very socially-oriented creatures. We are easily influenced by society’s norms and people’s opinions about various things, including ourselves.

But what many people (including me) don’t realize is that these norms are by definition limits, constraints to what we can do with our lives. They are the prison in which our ego lives in.

You can choose to liberate yourself from it by doing one thing, and one thing only:

Do not give a sh*t about what anyone says about you.

Living by this ideology most definitely translates into you being much more happy with yourself and wanting more from life.

We live our lives limiting ourselves, stopping ourselves from experiencing so many extraordinary things just because of other people’s point of view.

For now, I just want you to imagine yourself somewhere far away, far from everyone’s eyes and ears. In this moment, if you could do anything , what would you do ?

If this idea makes you happy like it did many times to me, I urge you to go do it right now.

The world will never stop for you. Your time on Earth is limited, so make it as enjoyable and happy as possible.

Searching for meaning

Honestly, I was once a very shallow person.

I think I was influenced by my peers to be this way, as here in Lebanon everyone is so profoundly invested in having a great reputation and having as many (fake) friends as possible. This lifestyle is in my opinion the worst kind you can ever have.

Your happiness depends on other people’s words and your self-esteem is fueled by their opinions.

I’m really glad that I realized that early in my life, as people who think like that will never be fully satisfied with their lives, as their objective isn’t to please themselves and pursue a goal that they dream of, but it is to please other people and constantly keep track of their reputation.

How horrifying is that ? I’m not trying to judge people or say that anyone who wants to look good and be respected is a shallow person, I’m saying that this type of lifestyle is the worst.

Seriously, some day they will realize that (hopefully) and they will realize that they wasted the better part of their lives trying to be cool and be “popular”.

As I have said in earlier posts, I believe happiness really comes from the inside and that if you’re happy with whatever you’re doing, even if this means being judged by other people, then never stop doing it.

Peace out

A Big Promise

I have finally promised myself to never stop doing what I love.

Nobody is going to stop me on my quest(s) anymore !

Although I’ve been posting some intense posts these last few days, this has been an intense period for me and I realize that taking control of yourself, your emotions and your ambition is imperative before they take control of me.

No more listening to people telling me I work too hard. No more wasting my time on stupid things like gossiping and useless talking on Whatsapp, and constantly checking Instagram to aimlessly look at memes that I know I’ll forget 2 hours later.

It’s time I take control of myself. With the end of finals week getting close, I will consider the period from the 20th of December until the 15th (Start of 2nd semester) a period of self-exploration and reflection.

Thanks for sticking by, wish me luck for my exams !

Why you do what you do.

Everyday, something appalling is bound to happen in the world. Someone might die in a car crash, someone might fall from a building or get murdered.

And that someone just might be you.

I know you’re just looking at this statement and ignoring as if that could never happen, but think about it: Every single person who died from a car accident or got killed on the street did not intend to do so at all. In fact, they were likely thinking about what they’re going to do the day after.

What I’m trying to say is that everyone these days is completely stuck to their beliefs that you always have more time, but that is not the case at all.

One question: Why do you wake up early in the morning to get ready for the day? Why do you work your ass off everyday, from going to the gym, to studying or working ?

Some people might answer: Because I have to. However, I think that’s the incorrect answer.

Now, imagine yourself waking up at 5 AM, happier and more ambitious than anyone else in the country (they’re all asleep anyway) and winning 3 hours of the 24 you have in your day in order to do things that make you happy.

What if you could go to university, or school or work, while telling yourself: “Yes ! I’m happily going to study Calculus and Physics ! I’ll happily work my ass off later to study them as I love them !”

All these things are possible. I’m telling you right now, hopefulness and ambition are the only things you need in order to do that.

In the end, happiness comes from within, and no amount of external factors such as fast food, binge watching series or even weed is going to change that.

Expecting to find yourself in the outside is like trying to find a needle in a haystack. Even worse, since you’ll realize that it’s not even there!

Peace, wish me luck for the finals.

Control

Some days, you’ll encounter someone you hate and they’ll tell you about how they talked to your ex-girlfriend or someone you loved and how they feel great now that they’re not with you.

You’ll feel like hitting the sh*it out of this person and everyone who wants anything more than your well-being.

I know this is a specific example, but this feeling is the same feeling I get whenever something bad happens in my life.

I think that’s called sadness.

However, the important thing is that you can learn to control these emotions. Not hide them, control them.

Whenever you feel shitty because of a bad day at work, or because of a bad comment from anyone, or maybe you fought with your loved ones, remind yourself that these things can always be fixed. You are the master of your own decisions.

If you want to do something, go do it and don’t even look back at anyone who is skeptical about your capabalities. Life is all about being happy, and accepting every person’s opinion about things won’t get you anywhere in your journey to happiness.

You do you, and if anyone has a problem with that, they can go fuck themselves.

P.S: I’m writing this post during finals week so it’s really hard for me to do something other than depressing over calculus and Java Programming. Wish me luck !

Embracing change

A short time ago, my (ex)girlfriend and I broke up. At first I really felt as though my life had become meaningless. I always felt tired, depressed and it was the most irritating period I’ve ever experienced yet. I think I was having a early-life existential crisis, if that’s even a thing. But after some time passed, something in me started to flourish. A side of my personality that I didn’t know existed: The “not giving a single f*ck” trait.

I have just realized that whatever I do won’t bring back anything.

Dwelling on my mistakes and the things that went wrong in this relationship won’t repair it. The change has happened and there is nothing I can do about it. I embraced it and I am now back to being myself again, with the added power of not giving a shit about anyone whose intentions are to harm me or anything other than be good. Ever since I was a child, I had always been looking for the perfect friend, the perfect person who I could always trust and look up to no matter what, but that ideology brought me nothing but pain and regret. Although I have many friends and people I trust, I don’t expect anything from them anymore, as that puts pressure on both them and myself. And I now realize that that person doesn’t exist, and that the only person you should look up to is your future, ideal self.

When I first embraced this idea of self-reflection, I got a feeling that I’ve never had before. I finally felt engaged, motivated to do everything I want to do in my life. I feel more energized and emotionally stable. I was blind but now I see.

Believe in yourself when nobody else does and you will find the light.

 

 

 

 

 

Be Proactive.

We’ve all done it:

Looked through the window to see rain and grey clouds, and decided it’s a miserable day.

Been criticised by someone at work or home and consequently felt down for hours afterwards.

Watched our sports team win a game and felt on cloud nine for a week.

For better or worse, these are all examples of reactive behaviour, where our feelings depend on the results of external events or processes that we have no control over. They are completely outside our sphere of influence, yet they can control our lives.

Think about it, how many times has your day been completely destroyed just because someone told you they didn’t like what you were wearing, or that your breath smells bad or anything of the sort ? My guess is that, like every single person on the planet, you’ve felt this way at least once this week.

You may just ask : “But how am i supposed to not be influenced by these negative ideas ?”

Well, my answer to this question is the following:

Whenever you feel down from now on because of anything that happened during the day, I want you to take a deep breath, delete the waste that’s accumulating in your mind and continue on with your day. Being proactive is about preventing problems by always being on top of your priorities and always taking care of yourself regardless of the external factors that could be insulting/embarassing.

Being proactive is not about not being emotional anymore, it’s more about understanding that not reacting in a certain way to a problem or situation can really make a difference in how you feel most of the time. More on proactivity later, but for now, stay motivated !

A growth mindset

Nowadays, everyone has the mentality of working hard to get results. However, as we a all know this is not always the case, as failure is inevitable.

But instead of dwelling on your past mistakes and defeats, accepting them as a part of your road to success will completely transform their purpose.

When people fail in a particular task, even whilst having worked extremely hard to achieve it, they tend to close themselves up and their motivation is driven to the ground. That my friends, is the difference between successful individuals and normal ones. These people don’t just do everything right from the first try, on the contrary; They work as hard as they can, and if they don’t get the results they expected, they work even harder. This is called a “a growth mindset”.

I think accepting this ideology has made my life much more enjoyable and I’m able to stay motivated and concentrated on my tasks, even when I fail some of them.

Thinking of failure in a different way can really have an impact on how you perceive a given problem, and also on the results you get.

Finally, as the wise Winston Churchill once said, “Success is stumbling from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm”.